Odds are if you are reading this you are super frustrated with the state of your natural hair. You are tired of the extreme dryness, the breakage and how time consuming your hair has become. What if I told you, you had every right to feel this way?
The truth is relaxed hair in comparison to natural hair is lower maintenance in many respects.
Especially if you are a natural with a kinky-coily hair type you are more likely to agree that your relaxed hair was less work. It takes less time to detangle, on wash day you won’t consume all of your conditioner, styling doesn’t take nearly as long and tangling rarely if ever happens.
Hair is great, but no one wants hair to take over their lives.
We have lives outside of hair, we have work, school, kids, significant others, friends, family, social gatherings and overall just more important things to deal with. So it seems like going back to relaxed hair would be the simple solution, right?
It really all depends. I have seen many of relaxed hair bloggers and YouTubers with long healthy relaxed hair so obviously it isn’t impossible to have long healthy relaxed hair. However, many of you (not all) made the change in the first place because your hair wasn’t in the healthiest state. I know some people may have had long healthy relaxed hair and just wanted to try embracing your natural, but many of you are a part of #teamnatural now because you noticed a problem. I must admit the styling and maintenance of my relaxed hair was easier, but I was also working with less hair as well.
This article is not meant to throw shade at relaxed ladies or discourage you from getting a relaxer if that’s what you really want. It is meant to give you information so you can make your own decision, so take from it what you will.
If you are going through some tough times with your hair, I know it may not seem like it, but relaxed hair is weaker than natural hair because of the chemical process used to break down the protein bonds.
So if your goal is long hair, then relaxed hair is still work!
When you are relaxed if your goal is longer hair the same practices that are used to grow natural hair apply. You should moisturize daily, use heat very sparingly, and protective styles are still a good idea. Sound familiar?
If you hair is relaxed or permanently colored protein treatments are no longer optional they are a necessity and you should deep condition more often.
NaturallyCurly, did a great article about this, which can be read here.
You know why? Afro-textured hair is afro-textured hair regardless if it is chemically processed or not, so the same care for length retention is required.
Now if your goal isn’t length, this may not be of concern to you. However, if it is you can go back to relaxed hair and essentially be back where you started. Of course there are exceptions to the rule and some women do not have to work as hard to have long healthy relaxed hair, but for many of us this just isn’t so.
Would you ever go back to a relaxer? What was your relaxer experience like?